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Pet loss and grief support
Losing a pet can hurt as deeply as any loss. However you are feeling, it is real and it is valid. Here is gentle, practical support — and the free New Zealand lines you can reach right now if you need to talk.
If you need to talk now
Free New Zealand support lines
These free, confidential lines support anyone who is struggling — including with the loss of a pet. In an emergency, call 111.
Need to talk? — 1737
Free call or text 1737 to reach a trained counsellor, any time, day or night.
1737Lifeline Aotearoa
Free call 0800 543 354, or free text 4357 (HELP). Listed hours are 7am–midnight.
0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline
Free call 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) if you or someone you know is in distress.
0508 828 865
Gentle ways through
Looking after yourself and your household
There is no single path through grief. These are simply things many people find help.
Let yourself grieve
Grief for a pet is real grief. There is no timetable and no wrong way to feel it. Waves of sadness, guilt or numbness are all normal, and they usually soften with time.
Talk to someone
Speaking to a friend, your vet, or a trained counsellor can help. The lines above are free and confidential, and they support anyone who is struggling — including with the loss of a pet.
Mark the loss in your own way
Keeping ashes, a paw print or a small memorial can give grief somewhere to rest. There is no right or wrong choice — only what feels meaningful to you.
Help children and other pets
Children often grieve openly and benefit from honest, gentle words. Other pets can seem unsettled too; keeping to familiar routines usually helps everyone.
There is no single free, government-run pet-bereavement line in New Zealand, so this page points you to the established support services above, which help with any kind of distress. Your vet is often a compassionate first port of call and can suggest local counselling if you would like it. Some private counsellors offer pet-loss support for a fee — confirm any cost directly before you book.
Common questions
Questions about grief and loss
Some of the things people wonder about after losing a pet.
Is it normal to grieve this much over a pet?
Yes. A pet is family, and the bond is real, so the grief is real too. Many people are surprised by how strongly it hits. There is no set timeline — be gentle with yourself, and reach out if you need support.
Where can I get support in New Zealand right now?
You can free call or text 1737 any time to talk with a trained counsellor, or call Lifeline Aotearoa on 0800 543 354. These are general support lines that help with any kind of distress, including the loss of a pet. In an emergency, call 111.
Should I get another pet straight away?
There is no right answer, and no need to decide quickly. Some people find comfort in a new companion sooner; others need time. Let the decision come when it feels right for you and your household, not from pressure to fill the gap.
How do I help my child through the loss?
Honest, simple language usually helps more than avoiding the subject. Let children ask questions, share their feelings, and take part in a small memorial if they would like to. Their grief is real, and being included often helps them heal.
Sources & review
The support lines on this page are drawn from the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand's helplines directory. They are general emotional-support and crisis services, not pet-specific, and they help anyone who is struggling. This page is not a substitute for professional care.
- Helplines and support services — Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand (updated 22 Oct 2025)
- Need to talk? — 1737 — Whakarongorau Aotearoa / Health NZ
- Lifeline Aotearoa — Lifeline Aotearoa
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